○ What do you bring to the conversation first? Your smile? Your open body language? Your laughter?
Follow these 7 reflection prompts.
#1: What’s the first thing you like to know about a person? Why?
#2: How do you encourage them to interact with you? What do you do?
#3: How do you show your personality? What’s your body language? What’s your facial expression? If you’re not sure, ask your family or friends.
#4: How do you invite them to share something about themselves? Do you share something about yourself first? Or do you ask them and listen first?
#5: How do you show you’re interested in them? Ask questions, share a similar story?
#6: How much do you let them speak? How well do you listen?
#7: How do you make the person feel? If you’re not sure, ask your friends how you made them feel when they first met you. That will give you an insight into how others see you.
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○ How much of your interaction relies on your words? 80%? 20%?
○ How much of the language you use is complex?
○ How much of it is culture-specific?
○ How do you adapt your language to the person? For example, if you’re asking about something unfamiliar to them, how do you rephrase?
○ How many words do you use to show that you care about the other person? That you care enough to listen to them?
